Sunday, February 5, 2017

Sermon 5 Epiphany Year A

Below is the sermon I would have preached at St. Stephen's, Durham today if I had not been felled by a nasty stomach virus.

 
The Rev. Maggie Silton
St. Stephen’s Episcopal Church
Durham, NC
The Fifth Sunday after the Epiphany,
            Year A
February 5, 2017



Matthew 5:  13-20


+In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.  Amen.


            When my children were preschoolers in the 1980s building children’s self-esteem was considered very important.  If you too had a preschooler at that time, or if you were a preschooler yourself, you might remember this.   TV shows such as Sesame Street and Mister Rogers Neighborhood were geared to nurturing self-esteem.  The message to children was, in the words of Fred Rogers’ song, “You Are Special.”  The preschool that my children attended designated a week for each child in the class to be Student of the Week.  The school sent home a piece of poster board, and the parent was supposed to fill it with pictures of the child and his or her family.  I still remember my first encounter with this assignment.  It was a good thing my daughter was happy about it, because I was less than enthusiastic about pulling pictures out of an album that had taken me many hours to put together. Remember, this was before the age of digital photos.  I suppose if I’d been a super mom I’d have planned better and had extra pictures made just for that purpose.  No such luck.  Still, when we’d finished mounting her pictures, Kate was thrilled with the result.  She toddled off to school with her poster, and at the end of her week, she brought home her poster and her Student of the Week construction paper crown.  Life went on.  We repeated the exercise a year later.  I have no idea how much this activity made her feel good about herself.  What I didn’t think about then, but what I invite you to think about today, is the question of where our self-worth really comes from. 
As Christians, we have a somewhat different take on self-worth than the secular world.  We understand our self-worth to come from God—we are God’s children, and we are made in God’s image.  But that doesn’t mean we don’t need reminding from time to time, as we see Jesus do in today’s lesson from Matthew’s gospel. This reminder isn’t given to make us feel good about ourselves.  We’re reminded so that we can be who God created us to be. 
Jesus first says to the crowd, “You are the salt of the earth.”  We need to talk about what he meant by “salt of the earth” for a moment.  The way we understand this phrase is not the way Jesus understood it.  When we say that someone is the salt of the earth, we usually mean to say that they are real, down to earth, unpretentious people.  It is definitely a compliment.  But Jesus meant to say much more than that.  Salt had a different meaning for Jesus than it has for us.  Today we think of salt as a very common and easily available substance.  Salt is the stuff in the shaker on our tables at home and in restaurants.  Salt may have a negative connotation for us if our doctor has told us we must avoid it.   That’s what salt is for us in our time.  But in the ancient world, salt was one of the most valuable substances there was.  It was even used as currency; salt was that valuable.  Salt made it possible to preserve food, which in turn made it possible for people to progress from a hand to mouth existence to a more settled life.  It’s not too big a stretch to say that salt made civilization possible.  So when Jesus said, “You are the salt of the earth,” he told the people that they were of very great value indeed.
Jesus didn’t stop there.  He went on to say, “You are the light of the world.”  Now to say that someone is the light of the world is unmistakably a very high compliment indeed.  If we say we love someone very much, we might very well say that he or she is the light of our life.  I think most of us can name at least one person who is the light of our life.  If we’ve been lucky we know we’re the light in someone’s life too.  Take a moment to feel how powerful that idea is. It affects us in our very souls.
  Now let’s go in a theological direction and take a quick look at what light is in the Bible.  In the very beginning of the creation story in Genesis, God’s first act is to say, “Let there be light.”  Light is God’s presence in the world.  When Jesus says to us, “You are the light of the world,” he tells us that we too are God’s presence in the world.  Just take a second or two to think about that.  Those words hold amazing weight and power.  Those words hold responsibility as well.
Jesus makes it very clear that that we need to do something with this incredible worth God has invested in us.  It isn’t enough just to sit there and be pleased with ourselves. It isn’t even enough to huddle into our little family or circle of friends or even our church community and be pleased with each other.  We can’t hide this light under the bushel basket; we can’t let our God-given saltiness go to waste.  Jesus tells us we need to keep that salt salty.  Jesus tells us to let our light shine. 
Jesus words sound fairly simple in the saying but for us they might not be so simple in the living.  For one thing, we might not feel like we are, deep down, either the salt of the earth or the light of the world.  Maybe we haven’t been treated like we are people of value.  Maybe our early experiences in our families, in our schools, and in our churches didn’t leave us feeling like we are the people of value who Jesus says we are.  I have a story to share about someone I knew who discovered her saltiness and her light, and who worked hard to bring out those qualities in others.
I first met Donna Bradley—this is her real name—at the IFC Community Kitchen in Chapel Hill, where I still serve as a volunteer chaplain, and where Donna served until her too-early death last year.  Donna had come into IFC years earlier as a client at the Women’s Shelter.  At that point Donna was pretty broken, alcohol dependent, and though she mightn’t have used these same words, had no sense that she was the salt of the earth or the light of the world.  IFC’s services and a recovery program helped Donna get clean and sober and recover her sense of worth as a human being.  By the time I met Donna she was the manager of the Community Kitchen and responsible along with her staff and volunteers for providing meals for 120 or so people served at the kitchen every day.
As the kitchen’s volunteer chaplain I quickly observed that Donna did much more than plan, cook, and serve meals.  Donna had a reputation for toughness with everyone; with those who knew her well, she had a reputation for tough love.  It didn’t take long to see that by insisting that the shelter clients who were assigned chores actually did them, she helped them live up to their potential.  She insisted that those who ate in the Community Kitchen’s dining room treat each other with respect.  Donna also insisted that people treat themselves with respect as well.  I watched her give many a pep talk to shelter and kitchen clients going out on job interviews.  I watched her share her own experience with getting sober and convince her listener that if she could do it, so could they.  Donna helped to restore a belief in self-worth to many folks who didn’t believe they were worth anything at all.  Without doing it consciously, Donna let people know that they had the qualities of salt and light that Jesus talked about in our reading from Matthew’s gospel.  Without doing it consciously Donna helped people let their light shine in the world.
            I realize that in the world’s eyes, the people who eat free lunches in community kitchens don’t appear to hold the qualities of light or salt.  Those of us who enjoy much greater privilege might have a hard time seeing the light of the world or the salt of the earth in the poorest members of our society; we may even have a hard time seeing those qualities in ourselves.  But if we glance back to last week’s gospel reading from earlier in the same chapter, we will see that these are indeed the very people Jesus is talking about.  Didn’t he say, “Blessed are the poor in spirit?”  Didn’t he say, “Blessed are the meek?”  Didn’t he also say, “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness?”
My prayer for us today is that we might live into our God-given salt and light.  I pray that we might value this great gift that comes to us from God through Jesus. So instead of hoarding that salt in the cupboard, sprinkle it around and let it bring out the flavor of those around us.  Instead of hiding that light under a basket, let it shine and help find the light in others.  Let us be that city on a hill, a place where our light shines and a safe place where the light of all of us, especially the least among us, may shine too.  Amen.

Friday, May 27, 2016

Memorial Day Weekend 2016

"Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends."  Remembering those who made the ultimate sacrifice.

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Wednesday Hodgepodge January 27, 2016

Also known as the Hodgepodge after the Snowpocalypse.



1. Share a winter memory from your childhood. 
My most vivid memories involve sitting in the house listening for the school closing notice on the radio.  Although my father taught in the same district, the radio often told us that school was closed before the phone tree reached him (old technology....).  Once closing was announced, I remember discussions with my brother about where to sled.  Good thing our parents didn't know about some of the places we went.  As a parent and grandparent myself I can't believe we went down some of those hills! I still have my old Flexible Flyer!
 2. What was on your blog this time last year? (Besides the Hodgepodge of course!) If you weren't blogging, what in the world were you doing with all that free time? 

I didn't have this blog this time last year. What was I doing?  Reading y'all's blogs, of course!

3. Ellen Goodman is quoted as saying, 'We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives...not looking for flaws, but for potential.' 

Do you see more flaws or more potential in your life at the start of a new year? Have you done anything specific this month to address either one? Does the new year truly begin for you on January 1, or is there some other month of the year that feels like a fresh start and new beginning?

This year I've begun to address the many pounds that have crept on over the last twenty years or so and have finally jumped on the high protein/low carb bandwagon.  My inspiration was a book called Always Hungry by David Ludwig, MD, PhD.  It's not as hard as I thought, but I'm only in the first week.  Time and the scale will tell.





4. Who's an athlete you admire or respect and why?

I'm not a big sports fan, but I admired the late Arthur Ashe.




5. Do you like cream in your coffee? Whipped cream on your pumpkin pie? Cream cheese on a bagel? Sour cream on a baked potato? Cream of wheat for breakfast? Have you ever had a scone with clotted cream? Of all the creamy foods mentioned, which one sounds most appealing to you right this very minute?

A great benefit of my new eating regimen described above is that cream is actually allowed.  Unfortunately, the bagel, baked potato, and the scone aren't.  However, I could totally get behind some unsweetened whipped cream on my berries for dessert.




6. Where were you last kept waiting for 'hours on end'? Or for what felt like hours on end? How well did you cope?

I had to wait a good hour for maybe ten minutes of actual contact with the orthopedist last week.  Most of it was in the exam room.  I think I'd rather wait in the waiting room, because being confined in a small windowless room is no fun.  Unfortunately, I didn't bring enough reading material.



7. Believe it or not, when next week's Hodgepodge rolls around it will be February. Huh?!? Bid adieu here to January in seven words or less.

See ya next year!



8.  Insert your own random thought here.

I'm going to keep my random thoughts about politics to myself (aren't y'all glad?).  What I will say is that having taught myself magic loop knitting from a YouTube video this afternoon, I'm feeling pretty pleased with myself.  

Tuesday, January 26, 2016

Hat for My Little Frozen Fan

I made this hat and one just like it for my younger granddaughter from a kit which supplied the yarn and the cute little snowflake topper.  The cold never bothered her anyway; it will bother her even less now.

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

Wednesday Hodgepodge January 13, 2016

1. Share one thing that really makes your day.

Getting a text with a picture of my granddaughters really makes my day!  They are the cutest girls ever--and I'm not in the least biased.




2. Lots of these kinds of lists out there, but one found here says the fifteen most colorful places on earth are:

Vernazza, Cinque Terre, Italy~Burano, Italy~Havana, Cuba~Rio de Janiero, Brazil~Chefchaouen, Morocco~Balat, Istanbul, Turkey~Menton, France~Jodhpur, India~La Baca, Buenos Aires, Argentina~Guanajuato, Mexico~Capetown, South Africa~Valparaiso, Chile~Wroclaw, Poland~San Francisco, California~and Pelourhino, Salvador, Brazil.  

Of those listed which would you most like to see up close and in person? Of all the places you've seen or traveled in your own life, what would you say was one of the most colorful?

I think I'd like to see Havana before it gets completely commercialized.  I've been to San Francisco, and while I think it's a very colorful place, I'm surprised at the places that aren't on this list.  If I were compiling a list I would add Santa Fe, NM and Victoria, BC to the list.



3."Everything you want is on the other side of fear." Jack Canfield  In general, would you agree or disagree with that statement? Why?

I'd have to agree with this statement.  Everything in life I've done that matters most--marriage, parenting, ordination--has involved conquering fear.  Someone wrote a book years ago with a title that was something like Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.  Maybe I'll get around to finding it and reading it one of these days!





4. Imagine you're stranded on a desert island and dessert appears...what do you hope it is? Do you ever struggle to remember which spelling is desert and which is dessert?

I certainly hope it's bread pudding, my current favorite dessert.  The difference is spelling between desert and dessert is no problem for me, but I'm a bit of a nerd :)




5. What song almost always makes you cry?

Once in Royal David's City makes me cry every time I hear it or sing it.  I love it's description of the Incarnation.



6. January is National Soup Month.  Everything from soup to nuts, in the soup, thick as pea soup, souped up...which saying most recently applies to your life in some way? Explain.

I LOVE soup--for me it's the ultimate comfort food.  And I have spent many hours over the years volunteering in soup kitchens, first as a meal preparer and server and later as a chaplain.



7. Write a two word note to your younger self. What does it say?

The note says "Don't worry," not because there isn't anything to worry about, but because much of the worrying I've done during my life was completely unnecessary.



8. Insert your own random thought here.

Lately I've been thinking about the next decades of my life.  Of course I don't know how many are left (I'm 61) and for how many of them I'll enjoy full vigor.  My mother began her ten-year decline in her mid 70s, which for me is not all that far away.

Wednesday, December 2, 2015

Wednesday Hodgepodge December 2, 2015

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1. Did you watch The Charlie Brown Christmas special Monday night? Who's your favorite Peanuts character and why?

I didn't watch on Monday night, but I would have if I'd known it was on.  Snoopy is my favorite Peanuts character.  I just love his take on life.

"Most psychiatrists agree that sitting in a pumpkin patch is excellent therapy for a troubled mind."~Linus  

Would you agree? 

Definitely.  Just being outdoors I find to be good therapy for a troubled mind.  When I'm outdoors I can look on the beauty of God's creation, and that alone gives me a boost.


2. Describe a sound from your childhood. What does this sound bring to mind? 

The fire whistle blew at noon every day.  That's how I knew even as a small child that it was lunchtime!

3. You've won a trip to a winter wonderland...would that excite you? Which one of the following would you most want to experience (or which one would you dislike the least)-see the Aurora Borealis in Norway, stay in Sweden's Ice Hotel, go dogsledding in Lapland Finland, take a winter wildlife safari in Yellowstone or celebrate Winter Carnival in Quebec?

I'd be thrilled to win a trip to a winter wonderland!  It would be really hard to settle on just one of these options, because I'd love to choose them all.  If I absolutely had to pick just one, I think I'd like to go to the Winter Carnival in Quebec.
4. Who or what keeps you humble?
Life in general keeps me humble.  Every time I even half way think I've got an aspect of it figured out, something happens to tell me otherwise.  The older I get the more humble I'm forced to be!
5. What part of preparing for Christmas do you like the most? Explain.
I really like the season of Advent and observing it's traditions.  Advent preparation keeps me focused on the coming of Christ and helps me from being caught up (thought doesn't entirely prevent it) in the secular hooplah.  Also, Advent can be a very healing lead-up to Christmas if I'm feeling blue.  It's about being ready for the coming of Christ, not displaying relentless good cheer.  For more on Advent see http://benirwin.me/2015/12/01/why-we-need-a-little-advent/


6. Gingerbread-yay or nay? Is making a gingerbread house part of your family holiday tradition?

I'd have to say yay.  I love to eat it.  There is nothing that smells as good to me as gingerbread in the oven.  My one grand attempt at a gingerbread house had mixed results.  While it looked beautiful with all the candy and frosting decor, it collapsed because I had made the roof pieces too thick in heavy.  Clearly I should have engaged the services of an architect!

7. What's one thing you want to start, do, or complete before the calendar rolls into a new year?
Oh dear. Lose some weight?  That item is always on my "to do" list, alas.

8.  Insert your own random thought here. 

It's been a very mixed year with highs and lows.  The high was the birth of granddaughter #2 in February.  The low was the death of my mother in August.

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Veterans Day

I begin this blog with an article written not by me, but by my husband.  It appeared on Veterans Day last year in the Westchester County, NY newspaper, the journal news.  The article is about my father, a veteran of the Battle of the Bulge in WW II, and what he is doing now.  Sadly, since the article was published my mother has died, but Dad, now 90, soldiers on.

http://www.lohud.com/story/opinion/contributors/2014/11/10/world-war-ii-veteran-still-serves/18741657/